A lot of people come to BDSM in middle age. This is usually a result of sexual exploration after becoming bored with a couple of decades of “vanilla” sex. Because they are middle aged they are generally committed to marriage, children, career, etc. These entanglements constrain their ability to explore alternative lifestyles deeply, especially when their spouse isn’t equally adventurous.
But things are different now. For better or for worse the youth of today, entirely because of the Internet, are exposed to enormous quantities of all kinds of pornography. As a result they are likely to become far more jaded far more quickly than any previous generation as they attempt to ape what they see portrayed on YouPorn. They are also more sophisticated about sex as they examine direct portrayals of all varieties of human sexual behavior.
It is important to note that they will be learning these things at the peak of their sex drives. Previous generations had much more limited information at that age. In times past non-vanilla sexual practices existed mostly as vague rumor.
At the same time as all this is going on, the youth of today are also less judgemental and more open-minded about things sexual (homosexuality, for example) than any previous generation.
Based on these facts it’s no great leap to imagine that this will lead to an efflorescence of advanced sexual behavior among people in their twenties, before they have children and even spouses. And whenever we see advanced sexual exploration we see a lot of power exchange play (BDSM, D/s, etc.).
Will we start to see dorm dominatrixes in colleges across the land? (“Dormination”?)
And isn’t it interesting that traditional, sexually naive bullying and hazing behavior in high school and college have so often taken the forms of non-consensual or semi-consensual BDSM?
Does this mean that bullying behavior in high school, which I’ve argued is a precursor to adult Dominance/submission behavior, will actually merge with an ever lowering age of BDSM awareness?
Q.E.D. Update #1: Large numbers of twenty-something men taking viagra to ensure performance.
Q.E.D. Update #2: Young person’s apparel merchant sells Hitachi Magic Wand “Ultimate” vibrator. (Hint: it’s not for sore muscles.)
Tags: bdsm, femdom, power exchange, Sex, Youporn
